One Year on Paraguard

So we seem to have a slight taboo on birth control and how it effects each individual. We don’t talk about birth control like we should in my opinion. So I’m here today to tell you about my experience with Paraguard.

After a ton of research on all the options for birth control out there, I decided the copper IUD was the way to go for me. I didn’t want fake hormones possibly effecting my breast milk supply. Plus I wasn’t too thrilled about the side effects of the fake hormones. And I’m bad at remembering my vitamins daily. So a pill was out of the question.

We’ll get into this in a second. But there are side effects that I didn’t come across in my research.

The biggest question I get asked it “did it hurt to get it?”. For me, yes. You see my cervix acts like it’s never had a child and closes up nive and tight after each kid. The midwife who originally tried inserting it was conpletely dumbfounded. She tried manually opening my cervix. And yes, that is as painful as it sounds. She couldn’t get it in and gave up. Another midwife at the practice ended up being successful.

My personal sideffects:

-For the first 3-4 months my cervix was sensitive. Sex would cause spotting. And sometimes I would get 2 periods.

-My normal discharge changed drastically. It smells more like copper than like my normal smell. It also is more acidic immediately after my period.

-I am almost completely dry for a few days every month. Which is annoying.

-Yes my actual hormones are effected. I noticed my mood swings are a little stronger. My emotions are a little stronger as well.

-I do get slight cramping again with my periods. I hadn’t had cramping since before my first kiddo. But now I do.

-My periods ranged from super heavy to normal flow. Now they are finally at a normal flow.

But? It’s done it’s job. I haven’t gotten pregnant. This is the longest I haven’t been pregnant in years. So I’m pretty proud of that to be honest.

I would definitely recommend it. I know some people get squeamish at the idea of having something inserted in them. But once you get past that, you’re golden.

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Little Warrior Kitten

***Trigger warning: placenta abruption, emergency c-section, NICU, and near death***

A year ago today I started having prodominal labor at around 3am.

I snuggled close to my boyfriend (Carl) through each contraction. I tried to let him sleep and stayed as quiet as I could. It wasn’t anything I hadn’t been through before. I didn’t want him to worry. I cat napped in between.

Around 7am they started getting a little quicker and a little more intense. I didn’t want to go into the hospital yet. I got dressed anyway. We wanted to lay back down and try to sleep some more. I joked about how Kitten might end up being born on the way if we waited too long. But I still wasn’t in a rush to get in.

At about 8am I decided we needed to just go in. I didn’t want to risk another accidental unassisted birth. I was still battling my state for Dandelion’s birth certificate. I told Carl he needed to drive. Neither of us were too happy about leaving because we were both exhausted.

Morning traffic made the trek slow. My contractions got to 5 minutes apart. But that confused me. I was kind of able to still talk through them. And even though I have a high tolerance for pain, normally once I hit the 5 minute mark, I’m moaning or screaming through them. My water was still intact. I wasn’t sure what was going on. But I reminded myself all labors are different.

We got to L&D and they put me in triage. Not a delivery room. I thought maybe they were full and I would have to wait for an actual room. They got me hooked up to the fetal monitor and started their usual questions. They checked my cervix and I was only 2cm. They noticed my uterus wasn’t really resting in between contractions. And that Kitten’s heart rate dropped. My OB came in to check on me and decided they needed to put probes on his head.

That’s when things really went downhill fast.

It was a few minutes after she got the probes on his head that I felt a gush. I got excited. I thought my water broke. I told the nurse. She checked under my blanket. I was bleeding. A lot. As soon as I saw the blood, i knew things were not going well. We would not be having our natural delivery like we had planned.

My OB then explained that it looks like my placenta was abruptiong. She explained that we needed to get him out now. I panicked. I had 4 successful vaginal deliveries. How could this be happening? My mom had arrived a little before they put the probes on Kitten, she asked if I was going to be put all the way under. My OB said yes. Which both relieved and terrified me. The only way I knew I could ever handle a c-section would be if I was all the way under. But I also knew that there was a good chance I wouldn’t wake up. I knew I wouldn’t get to hear his first cry and know he was ok. The icing on the cake was because of the nature of everything, Carl was not allowed in the OR. My rock, my comfort couldn’t be with me.

They started rolling me out of the room. I was terrified. I kept telling Carl I was sorry for the stupid argument I started the night before. For whatever reason my mind thought this was my karma. I don’t know how many times I told him I love him. I was so scared I was going to be leaving him and my babies alone in this world.

Once in the OR, they got me on the table. They started prepping my tummy. The cold air made me panic again. I looked at the nurse who had checked me in and been with me this whole short time and asked her to please stay with me. I needed something to calm me. They got the drape up and I heard someone ask if I was under yet. Panic again. I was terrified they were gonna start cutting. The anesthesiologist and another nurse both yelled that I wasn’t out yet. Someone got an oxygen mask on my face and the nurse next to me said they were going to push the anesthesia. I fell asleep hoping I would wake up and that my son would be ok.

I woke up. My throat was hurting. My tummy had a pressure pack on it. And I was alone. A nurse came into my curtain room to check my vitals. She was kind of gruff. I don’t wake up from anesthesia well and her vibe wasn’t helping. I asked about Kitten. She said he was in NICU. He had swallowed and breathed in meconium. He wasn’t breathing when they pulled him out. I think she asked me if I wanted my mom or Carl first. I told her I wanted Carl. (Lots of things are foggy but I do remember asking for him.) I needed him badly. And I knew he needed me.

Seeing him brought the wave of calm I needed. He told me how cute Kitten was and what name he finally decided on. It didn’t feel like I had him for long before my mom traded out so he could go to the NICU. And I wouldn’t see him again for a week.

At some point they explained that they almost had to cool Kitten down to protect his brain. But he didn’t end up needing it. He had to be on IV antibiotics for his lungs because of the meconium. They did an x-ray to check his lungs. And some other stuff that I don’t remember. I had to be put on magnesium for the pre-eclampsia I developed. Which meant I had to stay in L&D for an extra 24 hours. The pre-eclampsia caused my placenta to tear itself up. My OB said my placenta looked awful.

Once I was back in a delivery room, I was confronted by the head of security and a social worker. They informed me that Carl had made the nurses nervous. That he was freaking out and that he was threatening them. Which I later found out that wasn’t true. He had been explaining where he got Kitten’s name from and it made a couple of nurses nervous because it was far from Christian. (And it was a Catholic/Christian based hospital.) Plus, if someone is actually freaking out, why didn’t they try to calm him down first? Instead they called security and had him leave.

The social worker explained he was banned from the premises. I started crying and begging them to let him stay. I told them me and Kitten needed him. I explained that we are each other’s calm. His brother had just died and he just watched his son and girlfriend almost die in front of him so he was just scared. It wasn’t fair that they were just tossing him out. They wouldn’t listen to me. The social worker said if I needed anything to let her know.

It was one blow after another.

I was faced with dealing with everything alone. This wasn’t what I had dreamed of for months. We were supposed to be cuddling our son together while I recovered. I was furious. I didn’t feel safe anymore. What if they thought I was a threat?

I was asked by every nurse that came in my room if I was safe at home. I was safer with Carl than I was there without him. I already don’t trust medical professionals easily. And the social worker would come in to check on me.

My first 24 hours after birth was without my son and my rock.

My mom and grandma took turns staying with me. I don’t like hospitals. If anyone was a true threat it was me. It is always me. I’m always 2 seconds away from ripping a nurse or doctor in half while I’m in a hospital.

I was on about 5 different narcotics. Magnesium. And normal IV. I wasn’t allowed to even get out of bed to pee. So I had a fucking catheter.

The lactation nurse came and visited me. I wasn’t allowed to see my son in the NICU. I couldn’t latch him. So she offered me a pump. I explained that I don’t respond to electric pumps and requested a hand pump. She got huffy and rude with me. How do I know this? I explained I had 4 kids prior and have experience. That definitely pissed her off even more. Heaven forbid someone knows what they are doing. She then decided to take forever to bring me a manual pump. In that time I had to okay organic formula for Kitten. I asked first if we could have donor milk. We were denied because he was born at 38 weeks. I can’t tell you how pissed that made me. I understand preemies need breast milk. But any NICU baby should be allowed donor milk. Kitten could have benefitted from it especially given the circumstances.

Once I started pumping, I was barely getting any colostrum out. I was scared the c-section and the time apart were going to ruin our breastfeeding journey before it even started. My nurse told me to keep trying.

She also had a sit down with me. She knew I was bottling up everything. My mom did too. But that was because at that point I didn’t trust anyone. I didn’t trust letting my emotions out. I just wanted my son and I wanted to go home.

Over 24 hours after giving birth, I got to meet him. I was finally taken off of the magnesium. I was wheeled down to NICU. He had wires hooked up to him and had an IV in his belly button. (I can’t remember what that was called.) I couldn’t help but cry. I never wanted to see any of my babies that way. I felt like the worst mom. I didn’t protect him. They promised I could try to latch him that night. They wanted me to get settled in my post partum room and relax first.

I didn’t want to leave him. It felt wrong being in my room without him there. I got a shower and finally got changed into my clothes. Which was awful. My incision was low. The waist band on my leggings and even my yoga pants hurt. A nurse brought me a compression belly band thing. That helped protect my incision from my pants. Total lifesaver. My mom convinced me to also ask for an electric pump to see if that would help me get more out for him. I napped some.

I counted down until I could go back to the NICU and nurse him. I was so happy on the way there. The walk through the NICU to get to him was torture. Seeing all the tiny tiny babies…hearing all the alarms going off…my heart hurt for them and their parents.

Finally getting him in my arms was the most relief I had gotten since Carl. Smelling his little head was heaven. I latched him onto my right boob. He did well. His latch was pretty close to perfect. He transferred colostrum well. After he was done, I pumped and got more out than I had before.

Again, leaving him in the NICU hurt. It felt like I was leaving my heart behind. I was on edge when I wasn’t with him. I felt incomplete. I needed my Kitten.

That night my mom stayed with me. We went to the NICU when it was his touch times so I could nurse him. In between I pumped. A lot. I was getting quite a bit considering everything. My body was just waiting for that first latch. I pushed myself to walk more than they suggested. I wanted to be out of there. I cut myself off the narcotics and only took Motrin.

My second night in post partum was also my first night alone. My mom had to go home and my grandma had to take my grandpa to the ER. He ended up staying in the hospital again for the second time in 3 months.

Being alone made me feel weak. I was still being asked if I felt safe at home. Being reassured I was safe in the hospital. I didn’t feel safe. Especially alone. I couldn’t protect my son because I wasn’t with him. My nurse that night was supposed to bring me up from the NICU. Kitten’s NICU nurse told me I was pushing myself too much and needed to allow my nurse to wheel me back. But she never came. So his nurse took me back even though I insisted on walking. She was the only nurse that I felt any kind of safety around.

Normally I love being alone. But in the hospital after almost dying…and not even having my son with me…that was the worst kind of alone. I handled everything without anyone there until it was time to go home. My mom had classes and was unable to get back until she came to pick us up. We were in the hospital from Monday morning until Friday afternoon. I got my OB to wait on sending me home. I told her I was not going to leave without my son. So they didn’t release me until he was ready.

At one point (I can’t remember if it was the 3rd or 4th day) the social worker cornered me in the NICU. Anyone who knows me knows that that is the worst thing to do. I already had a bad vibe from her the moment I met her. That never went away. Again she asked if Carl ever hurt me. Again I reassured her that I’m safer with him than anywhere else. She noticed what I was hinting at and frowned for a second. I kept all my other answers short. She was trying to get me to open up. I knew how dangerous that would have been since all my thoughts were consumed with ripping her to shreds. I felt threatened by her mere presence. I wanted to be done with the hospital. I wanted to take my son home where he would be safe from those people. Never in my life would I have thought that I would feel that scared and uncomfortable in a hospital.

Throughout our stay I told Carl I just need us to heal so we could be his again. Kitten seemed to agree with that because he did so well. He surpassed every expectation. The NICU pediatrician was impressed and happy with his recovery. When we finally got that okay to go home, I was ecstatic. I had a bunch of milk frozen in the NICU that we took home with us. They told me that I had the most milk stored than any other mom there. I’m an overproducer once my milk comes in so it didn’t surprise me.

After this and a recent trip to their pediatric ER for Critter, I have decided I will not step foot in that hospital again. Carl’s ban is up. But that doesn’t take away from the fact that the hospital staff there is awful. I don’t feel safe there still.

Kitten’s birth was by far the hardest for me. He is now a year old and I still have not fully processed my feelings on this. It took me this long to want to write out his birth story. That was the hardest week of my life thus far. Maybe having now written this, it’ll help me process.

Why is Daddy looking at me?

I am going to preface this with a trigger warning. It took me quite awhile and a lot of courage to write this and publish it. I might end up deleting it…it hurts. It scares me to open up about this…

I really don’t know how to structure this post. My thoughts and emotions on this are all over the place. 

I guess I can start with…I wish I were ugly. I wish I wasn’t anything worth looking at. Maybe then I wouldn’t deal with any of this…

My stepdad has a thing for younger women. I have no idea how long he has been doing this, but for a few years at least, he checks me out. It has made my own mother hate me. She has slut shamed me. And it makes me feel disgusting. 

Ugly. Let me be ugly. Why can’t I be ugly? Ugly. Ugly. Ugly. Ugly. Ugly. 

This man raised me. He used to play Barbies, tea party…he used to let me be his hair stylist. I felt safe around him all the time. Up until I realized about a year ago what he was doing when he was around me. 

My own mother resents me. I want to be ugly.

I hate my looks. I hate being attractive. Maybe if I was ugly he wouldn’t look at me. Maybe my mother would love me. Maybe…

Ugly. Ugly. Why was I created this way? I wish I was ugly.

I’m left feeling like it’s my fault. How can anyone love me when I’m so digusting? Why would you want to touch me? Why would you want to be near me? I’m disgusting. 

He’s never touched me but it’s still a mind-fuck to be near him. Even for a short amount of time. And yet I am expected to be near him for family get togethers. Isn’t it bad enough that he emotionally and mentally abused me as a kid? Why? Why?! WHY?

I can’t even look at myself. I don’t want to be in my own skin. I want to be ugly. 

Let me be ugly. He won’t look at me if I’m ugly. Ugly. Ugly. 

The pain…the betrayal…it is crushing me. I don’t know who I hate more…my mother for how she hates me and does nothing to protect me…or my stepdad for being so sick in the head. 

She is leaving him…but will she always hate me? Why didn’t she leave sooner? Why is any of this happening?

Just let me be ugly…let me hide…ugly…ugly…

Just Because I am Skinny, Doesn’t Mean I Don’t Need Support

Ok so I’m seeing a growing trend. People praise overweight persons for exercising and bettering their life. Which is amazing! More power to those people who do choose to get healthier. 

But what about those of us who are “skinny”? Where do we fit in?

I already spoke about my tendency to over do my workouts. If I don’t have someone there to stop me, I will work myself to the bone. On top of barely eating…you can see where I need to have someone helping me stay accountable. 

Not all of us “skinny” folk got here in healthy ways. 

And I am not by any means truly skinny as society sees it. I have a big ass and hips. My thighs touch. And I have tummy flab. I am about 15 pounds away from prepregnancy weight. (12 if I just want to be in a healthy range for my body type.)  I am mostly fat and very little muscle. My goal is to tone back up like I was. And even if I was where I want to be, does that mean people who are already at their goal deserve less support than anyone else?

I’m in a group of mommas aiming to get healthy. (I’ll likely be kicked out of said group after posting this but that’s ok. I don’t feel like I have as much support as others in the group get.) Whenever one of the mommas who is a little overweight posts, everyone praises them or comments. They don’t even have to post anything like “hey I worked out today” they could just post a picture of their kiddo and say they are feeling tired. The purpose of the group is to motivate each other and be supportive. When I post what workout I did, I don’t get that. We have a drawing system that each week someone randomly gets picked for a prize. All I get is a number. 

I’m not where I want to be. And the group was motivating at first. But it seems the closer I get to my goal, the worse it is. It feels like a bunch of catty women. And I honestly hate it. What happened to the support? I already called them out on the phrase “don’t watch the numbers” previously. Like I’ve said before, for me, watching the scale helps me not go underweight again. They kept saying that to me so I did a long post about why I do have to watch my scale. I explained to them that what works for them doesn’t mean it works for someone else. That was one of the only times they commented with something other than a number or that phrase. I can count on one hand times like that that they did for me. But all the other mommas? It feels like they have favorites to praise and support. 

Sadly, I see it in more places than just that group. We should be celebrating everyone who is working on bettering their current health status. It is so important to get healthy. And the road to health is not done when you reach your goal. You have to maintain it. 

I don’t care where you started. If you are working on reaching or maintaining your goal, you’ve got my support 100%.

Appearance is Everything

Or is it? 

One of the things I get complimented on a lot is my hair. I get stopped often when I’m out in public by strangers. Some just comment on how cool it looks and others will ask how I did it. The colors took me a long time to get the courage to try. Especially my full head! I used to only do a streak or two. One time I did the under part of my hair. Another time I did the ends only (and that was a disaster). I think it took me 4 months to figure out how I was going to do my hair. I wasn’t 100% sure how the purple and red would look together. But I finally took the plunge and tried it. It has been my favorite coloring I’ve done. I’ve tried many other colors in my hair and this look is my favorite. It reflects me the best. I love it. 

In this society, I shouldn’t be surprised when someone decides to be petty. I don’t normally blast people, but this hit too hard. It’s been weeks and it still bothers me. 

Vicente’s father asked me why I chose purple. Now I’ve had my hair like this for months. He’s choosen not to be a huge part in our lives so he’s not seen it much. That’s his choice. But I digress; his tone was rude. I told him nonchalantly that I felt like it and I like the color. He said okay and nodded his head. The gears were turning. I knew another blow was coming. See he does this kind of thing whenever he sees me. He belittles me and is rude. He next asked if it was natural. I laughed and said yes. 

And sure enough, he told Vicente to watch out because our kids hair was going to grow in purple soon. Because you know, purple hair is totally natural.

As I have mentioned before, I was bullied a lot for how I looked. And that’s what was going on that night. It was like I was back in middle school. It was surreal. My children’s grandfather was targeting me for my choice of hair color. Last I checked, it was my body and my hair. Not his. I could tell I was blushing from anger and hurt and did my best to laugh it off. 

But here’s the deal, no matter the age, those “tactics” they teach you to get bullies to leave you alone don’t work. Next time he will find something else to comment on. He always does. So here’s what I’m thinking of doing: Princess loves to dress up. She loves my hair and makeup and just about everything. She tries on my clothes and steals my jewelry. I’m going to get her some clip in highlights. And they will be purple. Next time he bothers to want to see us, she will wear them. 

He needs to see how ridiculous his comments were. He needs to understand that being rude and hurtful for fun is screwed up. Especially with his grandkids right there. He did that with them listening. It took me years to love me and be myself. And in a span of 5 minutes, I was considering coloring my hair back to brown (my natural color) because of how he made me feel. 

I don’t want my kids to think they have to change to make anyone like them. Vicente’s dad will never like me and I am ok with that. I’m not going to change who I am for him. 

His hair is still his natural color and he is one of the biggest assholes I know. Everyone I know who has an “alternative look” are the most loyal and amazing people I have met. So really, what you see is not what you get. You can look like gold but be nothing but shit on the inside. My hair and how I look doesn’t take away from my parenting. My kids love my hair. Critter told me the other night I am gorgeous. My 4 year old knows better on how to treat others than a 50 year old.

Pretty sad.

And the Struggle Begins

As a teen, I loved working out. Oh who am I kidding? I still do! I used to work out for hours everyday. But along with that, I restricted my intake of food. 

Why? Well for years I was bullied and told I was fat. From pre-K onward on a daily basis. Pretty ducked up huh? So as I got older, I would “forget” to eat and just ignore my hunger pains. Some days I got away with only eating one meal. Other days (when my mom was keeping a closer eye on me) I got in 2 meals a day. Couple that with hours of working out and my already slim figure was tinier than it should have. 

Here I am 4 weeks postpartum after my fourth kid in 5 years. I decided this week to do light work outs. Well “light” to me is only 3o minutes to an hour. But I have to go even lighter than that because my body is not ready for longer work outs. Already I am struggling with what I want to do, and what I know is healthier for me. I want to revert back to what I used to do to be the “ideal” (which I was still called fat and so forth but I digress). I only need to lose about 20 pounds to be in a healthy range for my body and frame. 

What doesn’t help is my scale is broken for good. The numbers help me stay away from the “danger zone”. It keeps me from going underweight. 

And so…the struggle begins…it is so tempting to work out until I can’t move anymore…

Dandelion’s Big Entrance

(Warning: I give all the details here.  From the screaming to the blood to the emotions.)

The morning of June 24th started pretty normal.  We all woke up, got dressed, and out the door.  I had an OB appointment later that afternoon so the kids and I were going to drop Vicente off at work and go visit with my grandparents until it was time for my appointment.

Driving to my grandparent’s house proved to be a tad nerve wracking.  I was getting inconsistent hard-ish contractions.  Trying to drive through them was not exactly fun. I honestly figured Dandelion was trying to keep me on my toes and she was giving me some more false labor vibes.  Besides, my OB would be able to tell me later if I was dilated or anything.

Once we made it to our destination, the kids got to snack and play and I rested on the couch.  I was still getting some contractions but most were triggered by movement.  But they were still hard enough to make me say I needed Vicente to help me with the OB appointment.  My grandparents then said they would drive close to me on the way to get him from his work in case I needed help.  And with the plan in place, we started our journey to pick him up.

At his job, we all decided it would be a good idea to have my grandparents join us at the appointment, you know, in case.  My contractions were still inconsistent but they were kind of hard to breathe through.  At that point, we were all kind of hoping this was going to be the day.

We got to the appointment early.  I had a few contractions in the waiting room while I was just relaxing.  I let the nurse know once I was called back.  Unfortunately, my blood pressure was elevated as well as my urine was a bit concentrated.  I had been downing water  and sweet tea that morning so I was quite confused and upset about my urine.  I was hoping my blood pressure was just caused by the contraction I was having while it was being taken.  My OB decided that blood work was needed and if anything came back odd, we would be inducing that night.  With my history of pre-eclampsia and gestational hypertension, they were not willing to risk anything.  But if my blood tests were ok, I was told to go in Monday for a blood pressure check.  If I was high again, I was going to be induced.

She also checked my cervix, and guess what?  Only a centimeter.  It has to be one of the most disheartening things to go through so much pain and to have very little to no progress.  Oh the joys of pregnancy, right?

We went home, I was told by Vicente I needed to nap and relax.  All of us were a bit on edge about my blood pressure and of course we had to keep my stress low.  My OB called later that evening to tell us that my blood work was ok and I was allowed to continue being pregnant.  We were all relieved and only had Monday looming over us at that point.  Part of me was really hoping my blood pressure would be low so I could maybe make it to my due date.  But another part of me was just tired of being pregnant…

Saturday came around with very few contractions.  It seemed that Friday was just practice.  We went about our day like normal.  It wasn’t until that evening that things started to get…odd.

Vicente, the kids, and I were eating supper.  He was prepping some diapers to get them changed and ready for bed.  I was sitting with them trying to wolf down the rest of my food and help the bedtime process.  Out of nowhere, I got a really big contraction and felt a small release of fluid.  (This is where we get to the TMI stuff.)  I told Vicente and went to go check on what it was in the bathroom.  I wiped and saw red.  Bright red blood.  I kind of worried as in the past, I only got that when I was in full blown labor.  I called my OB and she said to wait it out since my contractions were not consistent.  I was instructed to let her know when they got to be 5 minutes apart for a full hour.  Ok, I figured I had a long time for that to happen, but I called my mom to let her know anyway.

Tiger fell asleep on our extra mattress in our room (reserved for sick kiddos when they wanna be near us).   The other two were passed out in their rooms.  I was back to inconsistent contractions but more of them.  Most were triggered by movement, but we decided to track them anyway.

Around 12:30AM Sunday morning, the contractions got to be 10 minutes apart…and painful.  As in Darth Vader growling painful.  We still rode it out at home because we figured it would be several hours before we got to 5 minutes apart.  Vicente stayed awake with me by playing Overwatch and held my hand whenever I needed it.  For the most part, I laid down in between contractions.  I couldn’t sleep, but I let my body try to rest.  During contractions, I stood up and rocked or walked.  I even utilized our shower.  Warm water was really helping take the edge off some of the contractions.

I finally got to 5 minutes in between contractions.  Also known as Darth Vader howling and screaming “no”.  Yeah I was saying no…I was scared of going to the hospital in that much pain.  I could barely stand.  And at that point, we had it where my mom was going to come get me so we wouldn’t have to wake the kids…well older two.  (Tiger had been woken up by my noises.)  The idea of being driven around while having contractions so close was a very painful thought.  But at the same time, I was afraid we would not get to the hospital in time.  I had tested positive for Group B Strep and was worried we would not have time to get the antibiotics in me.  I was basically wishing teleportation was a thing.

Almost an hour of 5 minutes apart.  I was 10 minutes shy.  Vicente decided to call my mom to come get me and call my OB to let her know.  My OB called back and said to come in.

Here’s where it gets super fun:

I was in the shower.  The warm water was kind of helping the lovely back labor I was getting.  While Vicente was on the phone with my OB getting the ok to come in, I got curious and decided to feel up in my vagina.  I found my cervix right away, but even crazier, I found my bag of waters.  Yup.  I was that far along.  It was at this point, I knew we were not going to make it to the hospital and I got into a squatting position.  The next contraction broke my water.  Vicente had just gotten off the phone with my OB.  I told him my water had broken, he came into the bathroom and it was then that I had another contraction and pushed.  There was no stopping that urge and I knew it.  I saw the freaked out look on his face.  With that push, her head was out, I had him get his hands under her head and I pushed again.  She was out mid push at 5:55AM.  She was crying and pink.  I had her body in my hands while he was still cradling her head and asking me what he should do.  I breathed a sigh of relief and got her on my chest for skin to skin.  I told him to turn off the shower and call my mom and OB.

It was over, all the pain was gone.  I was calm and could finally relax.  I sat there in the shower waiting for my placenta to come and held Dandelion.  I tried getting her to latch a few times, which eventually worked.  Vicente put me on speaker with my OB so she could talk me through tying the cord and so forth.  I delivered my placenta first and then we tied her cord off and cut it.  My mom arrived, and per my OB’s instructions (because Dandelion was breathing fine on her own and everything), we got Dandelion and me ready to go with my mom to the hospital.

Once there, we got checked in and admitted.  They got her weighed in at 7 pounds 7 ounces and measuring 19.5 inches long.  She is the tiniest out of all 4 kiddos.  We were on a mandatory 48 hour stay to be sure Dandelion was ok and did not contract the GBS.  But at the same time, she was in isolation.  She was not allowed in the nursery and had to stay in my room.  Anyone visiting had to put on a protective gown.  All because she was born at home.

Our stay was uneventful.  Both of us were recovering nicely.  All the nurses and doctors were surprised at how well we were doing.  We went home that Tuesday and the little miss has been the center of everyone’s attention here.  The older 3 are in love with her.  They all rush over to her whenever she makes the slightest noise.  It is adorable watching them sit and watch her.

So to sum it up, I accidentally got the home birth I have always wanted!  In about 5 hours of full swing labor, she made her grand entrance into this world.  I am still kind of shocked at how fast it went and how we delivered her ourselves.  An unexpected home birth…though I had educated myself to be sure if this ever happened, I could handle it.  I like being prepared even if I am over prepared.  And in this case, I was well enough prepared.

She was not willing to wait for us to get to the hospital.  She was ready to meet us all.

 

(Photo of us at the hospital.)

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